有效的溝通&享受生活

有效的溝通
Great And Effective Communication Skills Tips (communicationtalk.com)

Effective communication skills are especially important to develop because there is so much confusion and misinterpretation that problems and misunderstandings always arise.

1. Word Choice

What happens from the time you think of something to say and actually say it is dramatic. Your thought process might be very clear; however what you communicate in words is often significantly less clear if you do not have effective communication skills.

This is because when you have a thought you have all of the information that makes the thought clear. However, when you put that thought into words all of the information is not available to the listener and as a result a lot of confusion can occur.

So, in order to keep this from happening think of what you want to say before you say it and make sure you say it clearly, concisely and be very specific so as to eliminate as many problems as possible when the listener hears what you are saying. This is key to ensure effective communication skills.

2. Receiver Perception

Problems do not just occur when you make a statement, they also occur when people listen to what you have to say. This is because they have their own perception of what you are saying, or not saying, and why you might be saying it. Because of this more misunderstandings occur especially if there is a lack of effective communication skills.

People will make assumptions and not really listen to what is being said, which creates even more problems. As a result, during a conversation when both parties do not choose words carefully and do not listen carefully very little of what was intended is actually heard. the absence of effective communication skills can cause a breakdown.

3. Body Language and Non Verbal Cues

Effective communication skills includes body language. Body language and non-verbal cues are also the source of confusion and misinterpretation of what is being said and what is being heard. Make sure your body language emphasizes what you are saying rather than contradicts it.

Facial expressions should also be considered because they often times send signals as well that are different from what is being said. Also, many times people respond to non verbal cues more than to what they actually hear, so if your non verbal cues are not communicating the same thing you are saying then you will have miscommunication problems.
**Words
1. effective 有效的 2. confusion 混亂 3. misinterpretation 誤解 4. arise 上升
5. dramatic 引人注目的；戲劇般的 6. significantly 重要地 7. occur 發生
8. concisely 簡潔地 9. specific 明確的 10. eliminate 刪除 11. perception 觀念；看法 12. assumptions 假設 13. intend 想要 14. absence 缺席 15. breakdown 破裂
16. non-verbal 非口頭上的 17. cue 提示 18. emphasize 強調
19. contradict 矛盾 20. signal 信號

** Grammar
1. Your thought process might be very clear; however what you communicate in words is often significantly less clear if you do not have effective communication skills.
() 名詞子句: 疑問詞(wh~) + 不完整子句
() 用~文字/語言: in + 文字/語言
() 劣等比較: less + 形容詞/副詞(原形): 比較不~
2. However, when you put that thought into words all of the information is not available to the listener and as a result a lot of confusion can occur.
() put ~ into words : 轉化為文字
() as a result 因此(=therefore)
() occur 發生(= happen = take place)，主詞一定是事件，而且沒有被動語態。
3. So, in order to keep this from happening think of what you want to say before you say it and make sure you say it clearly, concisely and be very specific so as to eliminate as many problems as possible when the listener hears what you are saying.
() 使~免於~: keep ~ from + V-ing
() 名詞子句what you want to say，在這裡是當of的受詞
() 為了~: so as to + V = in order to + V
() 盡可能~: as ~ as possible
4. Because of this more misunderstandings occur especially if there is a lack of effective communication skills.
() 因為: because of + 名詞 (= owing to = thanks to )
() a lack of ~ : 缺乏~
5. People will make assumptions and not really listen to what is being said, which creates even more problems.
() 現在進行被動: is/am/are + being + pp
() 關係代名詞which 可用帶代替前面的整個句子，但要加上逗號。
6. Make sure your body language emphasizes what you are saying rather than contradicts it.
() rather than 而不是~




享受生活
How to Enjoy Life (wikihow)

Enjoying life is often thought to be a mindset, the result of reflection, action and gratitude. Making small changes to your life soon add up to greater enjoyment in life.

1. Get a pet. Owning a pet provides love, companionship, and hours of entertainment. Pet ownership has health benefits too, such as reducing your blood pressure and the risk of heart disease, increasing your feelings of well-being and connectedness, and teaching you lessons in empathy and nurturing.[1] For extra warm and fuzzy feelings, consider rescuing a pet from your local shelter.

2. Get into music. Listening to music taps into your brain’s imagination and sense of self-identity, boosts your self-esteem, and lessens feelings of isolation.[2] Listening to music feels empowering. Put on your favorite album––or that one you keep meaning to dive into, turn up the volume, and cut out all other distractions so that you can really experience the music.

3. Start the day with a smile. Your facial expression is traditionally thought of as a window into how you feel, but it's also thought that your facial expression can influence your mood.[4] Therefore, be sure to smile freely, to ensure that your mood is upbeat. You might even want to greet yourself in the mirror with a smile first thing in the morning––that happy face may be just enough to keep that mood flowing all day long.

4. Take a break. A decent break doesn’t mean zoning out to the TV or going down the internet rabbit hole. It means setting some time aside and making it special. As a thank-you to yourself, give yourself a vacation or “staycation”; a change of scenery––even if it just means having a picnic in your backyard or building a fort with your kids in the living room. Taking a break that is different from the ordinary and lets you "hang loose" can do wonders for your sense of fun, escape, and fulfillment.

5. Spend time with interesting people. It is well known that people with a wide circle of friends tend to live longer.[5] Of course, birds of a feather flock together, and it’s also been shown that your friends’ behavior can actually have a big impact on yours.[6] Make sure you hang around with positive, interesting people to inspire yourself to live a richer life.

** Words
1.mindset 心態 2. reflection 反省 3. gratitude 感激 4. companionship 友誼

5. entertainment 娛樂 6. benefit 好處 7. well-being 康樂 8. connectedness 連結

9. empathy 移情作用 10. nurture 給~營養 11. fuzzy 有絨毛的 12. rescue 解救

13. shelter 庇護所 14. imagination 想像力 15. self-identity 認同 16. boost 提升

17. self-esteem 自尊 18. isolation 孤立 19. empowering 有動力

20. distractions 分散注意的事物 21. upbeat 上升 22. decent 像樣的；還不錯的

23. zone 分區 24. staycation 居家度假 25. fort 堡壘 26. hang loose 放鬆

27. fulfillment 成就感 28. hang around 閒晃 29. positive 正面的

** Grammar
1. Your facial expression is traditionally thought of as a window into how you feel, but it's also thought that your facial expression can influence your mood.
() 被當作~ : be thought of as + 名詞
() 名詞子句: that + 完整子句 / 疑問詞(wh~)+ 不完整子句
2. Therefore, be sure to smile freely, to ensure that your mood is upbeat.
() 確定~ : be sure to + V / ensure that +子句
() 名詞子句: that + 完整子句
3. It means setting some time aside and making it special.
() 意思是~: mean + V-ing / 打算~: mean to + V
4. It is well known that people with a wide circle of friends tend to live longer.
() 名詞子句: that + 完整子句
() 有著~: with + 名詞，with a wide circle of friends介係詞片語當形容詞用，修飾之前的名詞people
() tend to + V : 傾向~ ；易於~
5. Of course, birds of a feather flock together, and it’s also been shown that your friends’ behavior can actually have a big impact on yours.
() 對~有影響: have an impact on ~
() birds of a feather flock together物以類聚